My husband has recently found sobriety. I used to think that everything in my life would be just hunky-dory if he would only give up drinking. So why was I not ecstatic, and beside myself with happiness, when he stopped?
Al-Anon has helped me to be honest and realistic that there is no quick fix programme. It prepared me to understand that sometimes the behaviour that I blamed on the drinking may not stop just because of sobriety. I am so grateful to the programme and the members who honestly shared their experience of sobriety and taught me so much.
Whilst I am very happy that my husband is sober and that many things improve each new day, it can also bring its challenges. I was not responsible for his drinking and I am not responsible for his sobriety. I can accept that I need to live my life and allow him his own path, so my happiness and serenity need not be reliant on whether he drinks or not.