Is Al-Anon for you?
If you are unsure whether Al-Anon is for you, it is best to start with the question: Is somebody's drinking affecting you?
Al-Anon could be for you if:
- You regularly feel hurt, embarrassed or distressed by the drinker's behaviour.
- You dread holidays and special occasions because you are worried that someone's drinking will ruin them.
- You find yourself covering up for the actions of a drinker.
- You often prefer to stay away from home rather than spend time with the drinker.
- You discourage friends and other family members from visiting because of the drinker's behaviour.
- You are 'walking on eggshells' because you fear you might set off a drinking bout or angry outburst.
- You have considered calling the Police because of a drinker's behaviour.
- You feel everything would be OK if the alcoholic stopped drinking.
Is your life disrupted by someone's drinking?
The alcoholic's behaviour can disrupt your home life. You may be experiencing:
- Missed or irregular mealtimes.
- Late or disrupted bedtimes.
- Money problems.
- Missed appointments and social occasions.
Do you get the support you need at home?
Do you find yourself:
- Covering up your feelings, pretending you don't care.
- Feeling you are unloved or not cared for.
- Blaming yourself, other members of the family, friends or life circumstances for the drinker's behaviour.
Did you grow up with a drinker?
Did you grow up with parents, siblings or even a close family friend who was a drinker? If you did, you could still be suffering as a result of those experiences.
Whether your relationship with a drinker is in the past or present, Al-Anon is for you.
Don't know what to do to help?
Al-Anon can help you find a different way of coping with your relationship with an alcoholic. Al-Anon is here for you either as a first port of call or when you feel you have run out of ideas and have nowhere else to turn.